The Truth About Self-Care: Beyond Bubble Baths and Face Masks

We're thrilled to have our very first guest on the show, Genevieve Altwer. Genevieve is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in San Jose, specializing in depression, anxiety, and PTSD. She also conducts mental health training for organizations to help employees better understand wellness.

Self-care is a buzzword we hear all the time, but what does it really mean? Today, we’re breaking down the myths of self-care, why it’s essential for mental health, and how you can create a routine that actually benefits you.

 

What Is Self-Care Really?

When we think about self-care, many of us picture Pinterest-perfect bubble baths, spa days, and candles. And while those can be great, self-care isn’t always about luxury—it’s about necessity.

According to Genevieve, for someone struggling with mental health, self-care might not look like an Instagram-worthy moment. In fact, it can feel like a burden rather than a reward. That’s why it’s crucial to start small—maybe just brushing your teeth, taking a short walk, or drinking water intentionally.

👉 Key takeaway: Self-care should feel manageable, not overwhelming.

Mindful vs. Escapist Self-Care

Not all self-care is created equal. While watching Netflix or scrolling on your phone might feel like a break, Genevieve highlights the importance of mindful self-care—activities that are intentional and fulfilling, rather than just distractions.

Examples of mindful self-care:
✅ Taking a walk and focusing on your surroundings
✅ Doing a skincare routine with full awareness
✅ Reading a book for enjoyment, not just to pass the time

Examples of escapist self-care:
🚫 Mindlessly scrolling social media for hours
🚫 Binge-watching TV just to avoid responsibilities
🚫 Over-scheduling “self-care” to the point of exhaustion

👉 Key takeaway: Self-care should feel restorative, not like an escape from reality.

The Role of Routine in Mental Health

If you’ve ever struggled with mental health, you know that even basic daily tasks can feel exhausting. Genevieve emphasizes that building a small, sustainable routine can make a massive difference in improving overall well-being.

For example, if getting out of bed and showering feels overwhelming, start by just sitting up and drinking a glass of water. Then, move to washing your face. Gradually, you’ll work your way toward a full routine.

👉 Key takeaway: Progress is not about perfection—it’s about moving forward at your own pace.

Why Beauty Services Are More Than Just Pampering

As beauty professionals, we often hear clients say, “This is my therapy.” And honestly? It kind of is!

Many people don’t realize that getting a haircut, facial, or even applying lipstick can have profound effects on their mental state. It’s not just about looking good—it’s about feeling valued, experiencing human touch, and forming meaningful connections.

💇‍♀️ Why beauty services boost mood:
✔️ They provide one-on-one attention in a safe space
✔️ They involve positive touch, which is scientifically proven to boost serotonin
✔️ They help clients see themselves differently, sometimes leading to a shift in confidence

👉 Key takeaway: Self-care is NOT a luxury—it’s a necessity for emotional well-being.

How Often Should You Practice Self-Care?

One of our listeners, Kim from Cupertino, asked: "How much time should we dedicate to self-care each day?"

Genevieve’s response? It depends on you! Some people need an hour-long morning routine, while others find joy in small five-minute moments throughout the day. The key is to schedule self-care in a way that feels natural and sustainable.

👉 Key takeaway: Self-care isn’t about time—it’s about consistency and intention.

Final Thoughts

Self-care is not selfish. It’s not just about beauty treatments or relaxation. It’s about making choices that support your mental and emotional well-being—whether that’s setting boundaries, practicing mindfulness, or scheduling a haircut.

💡 Remember: Self-care should be intentional, mindful, and sustainable. And if you’re struggling, start small.

Learn More from Genevieve Altwer

If you’d like to work with Genevieve or book her for a corporate wellness event, visit www.genevievealtwer.com.

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👉 Until next time, keep experimenting with your self-care routine!